I had the most wonderful weekend with my little E. She is almost 4 (in July) and has such a personality! Her family stayed with my parents and so my husband and I were able to spend lots of time with them. E is hilarious (as you can see below)!
She was always busy doing something fun (playing the drums, singing while playing the piano, dancing for everyone while listening to the radio, playing on the iPad, making funny faces, searching for rocks, playing at the park behind our house, getting her nails painted, flipping her hair, playing in the snow, and just being adorable!). That is most of what we did this weekend and it was so great.
E is at the stage where she talks a lot and knows most of our names. She can say her full name and loves it! Her middle name is similar to Janessa, so she kept saying, “We are the whole same!” SO cute. She called me her friend and we got to play together a lot.
This was the first visit where it really wasn’t hard…at all. Just fun and enjoyable. She has her own happy life and I have mine. We love each other, and this time I didn’t feel like a stranger. She enjoyed having me there, whereas when she was a baby she always wanted her mommy (naturally) and I felt a little out of place at visits sometimes.
I had planned to stop having visits when E was this old. My thought was always that once she knows who I am, I want to let her make the decision to see me. I didn’t want to force our relationship on her and therefore would wait until she was old enough to understand and decide for herself. But, these visits have been so natural. She knows I am a special person in her life and I feel like she does want to spend time with my family and I, so I don’t feel the way I did before. We are just an extended part of her family and it feels great!
We took a 4 generation photo this weekend. E was such a good sport.
My Grandma, E, Me, My Mom
3 comments:
So beautiful! I love your relationship with your daughter's family. You are adoption done right. :)
Janessa! I am so sorry I haven't looked at your blog until now. I hope you don't mind me saying that I think you are amazing!!!! I look up to you so much! I think you are a great mother :) I really mean that.
Our son's b/m felt similar to you before placement. She just wanted us & him to initiate contact and now we just have a fully open adoption and wouldn't want it any other way.
Sorry for blowing up your blog with comments today. It's beautiful! I love reading about what b/m's have to say. It really helps me know how to relate...
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