Is it possible to be truly happy with one man?
Can you have the excitement & desire plus the righteousness & respect? My girl friend & I have been talking about this a lot & are really torn. It seems like every woman has the man in her past that makes her weak in her knees & full of excitement & love, by just remembering what it was like to be with him. The guy she had a true connection with, right away. Why does it seem like those men are the ones that are at least a little bit more ( or a lot more) dangerous & unruly than the other guys? Is it just because we thrive on the risk & excitement? Or are these men truly the better lovers & companions, because of their rough, experienced lives?
In the end, it seems that women never marry these men, because they end up settling down with a more honorable, respectable & righteous man. But, do they have the kind of relationship & connection they had with their wilder man? Is the stability & security worth the trade?
I guess I just really want to know if its possible to have both. Have the man of your dreams that fulfills you in every way...spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, etc. Ive recently been dating a guy that is pretty much the prototype of who I should be with...according to whoever. He is an RM, a righteous, worthy, successful, white, handsome guy. We have a great time together & click pretty good. But...there is no connection or driving force there that draws me to him. Then all I have to do is think about my ex & all those emotions come flooding back, its overwhelming! Why is it that some men have such power over us?! Thats what makes love great I guess.
I just dont think I can settle for less than that. I feel lucky to have experienced that great desire & love with a man...but I had to leave him in the end, because he couldnt be the spiritual, righteous, productive man I needed him to be. It just really scares me that I wont find both aspects in a man. I know too many women who settled for less & still question if they made the best choice.
1 comment:
jan. this was freakin good. i think about this EVERY DAY. the person i've felt most connected with in the past is all things i should not be pursuing in a future husband. yet... the click is always there. weeeeeeeeeird, and obnoxious. more on that subject later, but just wanted to say HI. for now we just have to keep on believing it IS possible to have all the best things in ONE person, and be patient til we find him! love you!!!
ps: i drove thru seattle today and was so sad i couldnt come and play!!!!!! have fun with your saturday "appointment".... :)
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